The topic of death is often difficult or plain uncomfortable to discuss, but for many it remains a point of interest and curiosity. There are others who view death as simply another part of life and therefore a topic to be discussed with frankness and honesty. Caitlin Doughty is one such person, and she has made it her life’s work to make it easier for those unsettled by death to ask questions and talk about the end. It’s a good thing Doughty isn’t shy about death. As a 30-year old mortician, she isn’t just answering questions of the curious; she’s already written and published her memoirs, detailing her life as a young person with a serious interest in death, cemeteries, and the like. It’s also in her memoirs that she refers to cremation as “the American way of death” as she points out the many options offered to any who choose cremation.

As a licensed mortician, Doughty has noted the chasm between those who refuse to discuss death and those who are genuinely curious and interested by it. She wanted to bridge this gap between the two and allow those made nervous by the topic to ask some of their most burning questions, and she does so in a very public way. In her YouTube series entitled “Ask A Mortician,” Doughty tackles topics including what happens to hip, knee, and breast implants, if dead bodies are dangerous, and “Are Those My Mother’s Ashes?” In each video Doughty answers these questions and more with candor and compassion, accepting and even encouraging the curious. Of all the topics she discusses, there is one which is particularly close to her heart. In a series of interviews given for the release of her memoirs, Doughty spoke passionately about the rights families have when it comes to their deceased loved ones.

According to the Cremation Association of North America, cremations are increasing due to factors like low costs, flexibility, and convenience. Perhaps surprisingly, one of the top five factors driving an increase in cremations is growing religious acceptance of the practice. Although many people still prefer traditional burial to cremation, some churches have accepted the practice and are even creating burial places for cremated remains.

In keeping with the trend, several Philadelphia-area churches have incorporated cremation memorials into their grounds. One such church is the Hopewell United Methodist Church in Downington. Just last year, the church unveiled a memorial garden for scattering and two columbaria to house cremated remains. Four more structures are planned for future cremation burials.

At Bryn Mawr’s Episcopal Church of the Redeemer, cremations outnumber burials by 3 to 1. The church, which had reserved 15 acres in 1960 for expansion, used the space to construct two columbaria that each holds 96 cremation urns. At Paoli Presbyterian Church, space for cremated remains is quite popular. About 100 people have already reserved space in the brick wall surrounding the church’s garden, and another 150 people plan to have their ashes scattered in the memorial garden.

New ideas, concepts, and actions undergo an evolution before they attain a general cultural popularity. When a subject is uncomfortable to acknowledge or discuss, it remains in the background, almost in the realm of a taboo. As it begins to take hold in the mainstream, popular culture’s media avenues recognize it, perhaps mixing humor with the inappropriate or the macabre. And finally, it is discussed in a matter-of-fact manner, signifying the overall cultural acceptance of the idea, concept, or action.

Cremation is one such concept which has followed this natural arc toward a broader acceptance. Only a few decades ago, the fact individuals and families shied away from cremation was represented in the relatively low number of individuals who opted for cremation over a traditional burial. Any representation in media of the practice was typically a combination of antiquated and foreign, (e.g. Viking funerals).

Cremation has been an accepted practice for thousands of years in differing cultures and a popular means of final disposition in the U.S. for some time. And now, one group who largely opposed the practice is starting to come around. Though many Christians may believe cremation is an affront to their chosen religion, more of their kind are choosing it as their final rite of passage. In fact, the Catholic church lessened their restrictions against cremation decades ago, allowing it as an option for burial, though under a new set of restrictions. Now, other denominations are making accommodations for those in their flock who are choosing this traditional option. According to a recent news story, some churches are even inviting those in their congregation to choose cremation.

According to a story by the Philadelphia Inquirer, one pastor at a local Methodist church has noticed the trend and has opened a memorial garden where people can remember their loved ones, no matter which burial method they’ve chosen. Hopewell United Methodist Church, under the leadership of pastor Steve Morton, has recently opened a memorial garden and two columbaria to accommodate all members of his congregation, buried or otherwise. Speaking on this, Reverend Morton said, “The church has got to get in there with something sacred and beautiful.” Morton also said his church plans to open another 4 columbaria to accommodate the growing trend of those choosing cremation as a part of their end-of-life plans.

Throughout the years, different cultures have preferred different methods of burying and remembering their loved ones. The Norsemen, for instance, would often prepare savage and elaborate services to send the deceased into the afterlife. Some of these services involved cremating the remains, placing the ashes on a boat with gifts and offerings, then setting the ship on fire and sending it into the cold sea. Recently, a WWII veteran received similar treatment with help from the U.S. Coast Guard stationed at Atlantic City.

Andrew Haines, a WWII veteran who ended his tour and finished the rest of his life in Atlantic City, died in August at the age of 89. As a serviceman proud of his Viking heritage, Haines and his son arranged for a very special burial at sea. Officers with the Coast Guard say burials at sea aren’t unusual and, according to Atlantic City’s operations officer, the outfit alone performs about 7 burials at sea each month. What made Haines’ burial at sea different was its Norse roots.

Imagine being hauled off in a wicker coffin decorated with chicken eggs and then lowered into the ground to the smooth sounds of Elvis Presley. Now imagine the person in the casket is a 94-year-old noblewoman. It might be an odd thing to picture, but England’s Duchess of Devonshire, Deborah “Devo” Cavendish had a funeral that was exactly as described.

Far from being the stately and somber affair we’d expect from a British noble, the Duchess of Devonshire’s funeral speaks to the modern trend of funeral personalization, breaking from tradition, and embracing unique means of celebrating the life of an individual. Want to go out in grand style? Consider these tips when planning your modern funeral service.

Proponents of cremation have long extolled the virtues of this form of final disposition for a human body. Citing cost savings, ecological concerns, and increased flexibility for the family with regard to how and when to memorialize their loved one, the process of cremation has been steadily growing in popularity over the previous decades.

Any Google search of “cremation” over the last seven days, however, ties this end-of-life option to the viral scourge that only just crossed American shores: Ebola.

Cremation is a popular alternative for traditional burial services. Its popularity dates to the Greeks who practiced it as far back as 1,000 BC. According to the National Funeral Directors Association, cremation is rapidly becoming a widely accepted method of disposition all across North America. This trend continues to expand in almost all states with almost 50 percent of all funerals including cremation. It is estimated that approximately 37,000 cremations take place each year in Philadelphia as families seek more viable options for dealing with the death of a loved one.

Cremation: A Dignified and Affordable Choice

There are various reasons why families choose cremation instead of opting for a traditional burial. The primary reason given for deciding on cremation is that it offers an affordable alternative in a slow economy. The average cost of a traditional funeral and burial can range between $6000 and $10,000 or more. Cremation is much more affordable than a burial. A typical casket alone can cost as much as $2000. In contrast, a simple cremation with a basic memorial service only costs about $1,500. Many families choose to eliminate the memorial service, which lowers the cost significantly.